"Not into THAT kinda stuff..."

It is always interesting to me when I hear people speak about how they are "not into THAT kinda stuff" when it comes to their "sexuality". What puzzles me more is "THAT kinda stuff" usually refers to making the experience more natural, holistic, loving, spiritually connected and human. Let’s face it…

WE ALL HAVE SEX or PLAN TO HAVE sex one day and EVERYONE KNOWS EVERYONE IS DOING IT.

So why are we hesitant to talk about it, explore it, use the energy, share it, honor it? 

We have been taught it is “bad, dirty, deprived, perverted, etc” AND we continue to accept those perspectives as reality.  When we see a child touching themselves and others we reprimand them and teach them that is “bad or a no-no” yet we expect them to later readjust their thinking to be in a healthy sexual relationship with another human being.  We wont even touch on the fact that must of us are “Conditioned to be unhappy” *later blog post :)* 

So since I wrote a book about it I think that we should talk about it.  Actually it is the other way around, I thought we should talk about it and feel good about it so I wrote a book about it.

Well let’s break it all the way down and get the root of things…. Sex the way we use it is slang.  The Etymology of the word is as follows:

 1382, from Middle French sexe, from Latin sexus (“gender”). Thought to be connected with Latin seco, secare (“divide, cut”) by the concept of division, or 'half' of the racelate 14c., "males or females collectively," from L. sexus "state of being either male or female, gender." "Commonly taken with seco as division or 'half' of the race" [Tucker], which would connect it to secare "to divide or cut" (see section). Meaning "quality of being male or female" first recorded 1520s. Meaning "sexual intercourse" first attested 1929

Not to get too heavy in to it but “sex” refers to gender so we all have “sex”.  From birth we have “sex” or a “sex”.  What we call sex is really coitus but wait… that only refers to penis into vagina and we ALL know what we do it more than that (it is ok to laugh).  Sexual intercourse wasn’t used to 1929 yes 1929 and we all know humans have been “having sex” since the beginning of time

My point is let it go… “Sex” is a misnomer.  It is a word that we use to express the joining of divine energies.  I like to refer to it as “blending or engaging or even intercourse”. 

It is a wonderful journey of enjoyment, arousal, excitement, recreation, procreation and enlightening to be experienced by EVERY human being in some shape form or fashion.

When you are “not into THAT kinda stuff” you are not into understand The Universe and your role in it. You are not into experiencing the essence of another and sharing yours with them. You are not into tapping into The Creator and the divine understanding that cums with a *Cosmic Orgasm* (later post). You are not into tapping into your divine self. You are not into healing, enlightenment and evolution. You are not into blending with a another human to the point of ecstatic pleasure.  YOU’RE NOT INTO THAT????

Ohhhh….right “That’s not sex… it is something else” Well maybe we ALL need to be doing “something else” and not “having sex”.

A wise person once said (something like) “You have sex like you live.” 

How are you living?  How do you have sex?  

Me...? Open, loving, unfettered and wonderfully!!!!!