Dear Milele,
I felt the need to write you about my situation and how you
helped. Here it goes………
It’s as easy as
riding a bike
People use this phrase to describe many things like driving a
car, tying your shoes, even having sex but for some once you decide you like to
be tied up and told how to ride the bike, going to just regular riding is a bit
hard. See I was in an S&M relationship for several years; after the
“Shades” book series or reading ZANE which many of you should be familiar with
it. S&M: the terms sadist and masochist
specifically refer to one who either enjoys giving pain (sadist), or one who
enjoys receiving pain (masochist), many practitioners of sadomasochism describe
themselves as at least something of a switch, or someone who can receive
pleasure from either inflicting or receiving pain. I was a submissive and he
was dominating the majority of the time. Sometimes the roles would change. This means that the majority of our sexual
encounters where situations created by him. I was told what to wear, how to
stand and what to do. I enjoyed the role play and being tied up and spanked.
For me this had become “normal” sex. I was accustomed to receiving a text that
would say. “On Friday at 10:00 a.m. have on a white button front shirt
with tie and a red bra. Your hair must
be able to be held or grabbed, knee length socks and black heels. Sit on the kitchen chair on your behind with
your hands on your knees: palms up. If
you don’t do as told you will be spanked with the item of my choosing.” I grew to love this. It was fun, freeing and
exciting. After the relationship ended I
started to date again only to end up not feeling sexually fulfilled. Many of
the men didn’t like that type of thing or I just didn’t bring it up out of
fear. With these issues I chose to be
celibate. So now I have to figure out how to introduce my partner into my bike
riding style. I was sexually frustrated
and feeling hopeless then one day this very blog helped me. Milele: You said
the following “Wait… bad sex can be meaningful and meaningful sex can be
bad. Sex is like having a meal. What you put into it is what you get out of
it.” I realized I never told my severer how
I like my dish, just that I wanted it. So from here on forward my bike ride
will come with full detailed instructions to ensure all participants enjoy the
ride.
I thank you for your blog and book
and your words of motivation and encouragement.
Sincerely,
Optimistic
Bikerider
