Sex talk: What are we REALLY saying? 2016 Edition

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Confessions.... by Milele

Many people have asked me about my books “Confessionsof a faithful Woman” (2012) and “Confessions of a Sage Woman” (2016) so I decided to provide an overview…

Sex is a spiritual act though many of us are never consciously taught how to use it for healing, enlightenment and manifesting things in the ways it was meant to. As adults the over whelming majority of us will have an active sex life until we transition to the next phase of existence and sex is an act that involves all facets of our being.   Those of who do not have a “sexual” life will still have a “spiritual” existence that involves intimacy, connection, enlightenment and interpersonal relationships.

With this in mind I decided to write a series of books to teach lessons while challenging status quo perspectives on love, sex, gender roles, marriage, relationships and how we should function and operate on a daily bases.

Both books are part of the “Confessions of a...” series which is a collection of stories, sage wisdoms and poems written to arouse every aspect of the reader.  I write to educate people about universal, revolutionary, Afrikan (cause that’s what I am), cultural, traditional, rites, rituals and ways of living in order to raise the level of humanity in all of us.  The characters are fictional however the history, research, information, sacred rites, “Sage Wisdoms” and lessons given in the books are factual and intended to help foster a more holistic way of operating and interact in our relationships. The characters also deal with real issues that each of us face in our journey of spiritual enlightenment and physical satisfaction; teaching or reminding us how to operate from our higher selves and have healthier ways of thinking and acting.

“Confessions of a Faithful Woman” was an in your face “let’s talk about sex” foot in the door for this series.  It dealt with everything from sexual orientation, to sexual repression to swinging from an Afrikan centered (if you will) perspective. The stories were written from many different points of views and mindsets that ranged from monogamous to heterosexual to polyamorous to celibate to sexually fluid and back again. It merely scratched the surface to shake the status quo up a bit and prepare readers for the longer journey to come.

“Confessions of a Sage Woman” on the other side of the coin slides readers more deeply into the knowledge of the sacred sexual and holistic lifestyle.  Several of the characters from the first book are expanded upon and there are “recipes” that inform the reader in a more formal manner about holistic living and creating a more sacred way of living and operating. This book also introduces new characters and addresses things like depression, rape, abuse and other barriers to our healing and advancing. Yet it still has the same erotic flow and vibe that the series is intended to have

I write from my personal knowledge, research, initiation, relationships, values, perspectives and worldview and put the most intimate parts of myself on papers for the world to see and hopefully utilize for their evolution.  I hope that each book takes the reader farther into themselves and their connection to the universe. 

As always I appreciate you for taking the time to read and think about what I have shared.  I look forward to you sharing with me as well about your experience reading the series or dealing with some of the things in the books.

 

Dancing Frees Me

A friend shared with me this piece about the first time they met me...

"She came to dance; alone she took the dance floor.

Like a pendulum her hips swayed,

Sending vibrations stronger than winds from all four corners.

Her neck rolled to the rhythm, head turning freely,

with no concern that she was alone on the dance floor.

Her black is beautiful.

Locs hanging like vines of the jungle as she showed what true nature was.

She danced."

For me dancing is a way of connecting to spirit, healing, releasing, communicating and arousing the energy in myself and others.  From very young we are bobbing our heads, clapping our hands and moving our feet to the beat; it just comes naturally to us.

Throughout history people have used song and dance as intricate parts of their lives and culture to mark and celebrate significant transition in life.  Dancing has also been used to send people into spiritual trance, enlightenment, sacred sexual rites, and as a way to initiate special into different spiritual systems.

If you have come across me around some good music you know that I dance WHEREEVER I am.  Sometimes it is the words, sometimes it is the beat, sometimes it’s the emotions of the artist but it is always something that is sparked within me to move.

Fast, slow, grinding, stepping, African, with a group of people or all alone.  I connect to the music and let it take me on a journey of mind, body and spirit. My body expresses my pleasure with the music, the vibe, the people… life.  It is good and fulfilling. I love when people join me on this journey but I also love to take it alone without reservations or restraint.

I love to flow with the music allowing it to move through me and use me to express itself in human form (Yeah.. It’s like that). Unless I’m interested in sharing that moment with someone else I never notice who is watching, who else is dancing or even the effect I may be having on people.  But there are times (whether Im interested or not) that I can hear the music calling itself forth in others wanting to be expressed through them and I gravitate to them and we dance as one expression to the music and the energy of that moment.  It is very personal and not personal at all.

Dancing is arousing, sensual, pleasurable, erotic, spiritual, captivating and empowering.  I think we all should dance more every chance we get.  You will see in my series "Confessions... of a" how much music and dancing is a part of the experience in the stories and poems.

I just have one question: Will you dance with me?